“For me, Christmas begins when we start creating the atmosphere at home. Lights, paper decorations, small adjustments that immediately slow everything down. I look forward to the moments that don’t require much: baking something simple, sitting under a blanket, making ornaments with the boys. It’s a way of being together that feels achievable, and it’s usually what they remember.”

“Becoming a parent makes you more aware of how traditions shape childhood. The small routines suddenly matter: choosing the same tree vendor, decorating together, ending with hot chocolate. Children experience December with a level of intensity adults often forget. Their excitement forces you to prioritise what actually creates value during the season.”

“I hope they remember the feeling of cohesion. That sense of being part of something steady and warm. Coziness seems simple, but it builds emotional memory. If they associate December with belonging rather than pressure, then we’ve done something right.”

1. Use the calendar strategically. With two Christmas days in the Netherlands, dedicating one evening solely to the immediate family creates breathing room and makes the social gatherings easier to enjoy.

2. Anchor the day with something physical. A forest walk, collecting natural materials, baking. Sensory activities regulate the pace and expectations of the holiday.

3. Decorate within children’s reach. Felt, paper ornaments and unbreakable elements let children participate without stress. A home becomes calmer when children don’t have to tiptoe around it.